The Unemployed In The USA Suffer

It’s tough losing your job at any time, but as you get older and your skills maybe are older it gets harder to get another job, harder to retrain, and like so many others you could be in a position where the cost of being unemployed could affect the future of your family, not just yourself.

Take someone like myself, who has been unemployed for just over two weeks.  I have two months of severance pay coming, but with the economy in the state that it is in, chances of finding another job are slim.  Not only that, every time I look for another job, there are fewer positions open for my skills.  Companies don’t want to train you, they want to hire someone who has all the knowledge to do the job required.  So, unless you can gain those new skills, you can’t get one of those positions.

Problem is that this is a Catch-22 situation.  You could take a course and learn something new, but before taking the course you should really know something about the system.  Having taken the course, you need to work with the system to put your learning to use and to fully understand what you learned.  Without a job you can’t do either, and few employers will take on someone who has taken a class and nothing more.  Classes are expensive too!

Unemployment benefit would be enough to pay my rent and for me to scrape by, however I have two young daughters who are in Catholic school because the local middle schools are awful.  Literally the reputation of every single middle and high school in the area is really bad, so the last thing I want to do is to take them out of private school, since that would affect their future.  This is just one example of the way being unemployed affects the whole family.

Health care is another factor.   Most white collar workers get health care provided through the company that they work for, with the company paying 80% of the cost.  However, once you lose your job, your health care is only paid up to the end of the month, and after that you have the option of paying COBRA, basically retaining the same health care plan, but covering the full cost yourself.  With the company I was working for, I would now have to pay 102% of the total cost per month, which would be in excess of $500.  That’s just for ME!  If I had to pay for the whole family, it would be just under $1,000 a month to provide health insurance.

Now isn’t this just crazy?  At the time you really need cheap health care, because you have no money coming in, you have to either pay more than the total unemployment benefit ofr the month, or go without any medical coverage at all.  Doesn’t this seem just backwards?

In the UK at least there is the National Health Service (known as the NHS), which is funded through National Insurance payments (the equivalent of Social Security).  Health care (apart from Dental Care) is completely FREE, so you can go see a doctor, get surgery etc, without having to pay a penny.   Of course this does come at a price, since the NHS is under funded, and so if you need treatment and it’s not deemed to be urgent, you could be on the waiting list for a year before anything is done, but at least it’s FREE.   Many companies in the UK do offer a subsidised health care plan similar to the USA (BUPA), but when you need to fall back in hard times, the NHS is there at least.

This past two weeks I have had to catch up on all the things that I did not do while I was employer, getting my eyesight checked, a full checkup, and having a dental checkup too.

Although my vision exam was free and covered by my medical plan, there was a deductible and of course they only pay so much towards frames, so that set me back over $100 for a pair of glasses (my first – not bad to get to 54 without having glasses, although I did really need these 5 years ago!).

Then the doctor.  My exam was free, but other things I would have liked to get done would have cost, so I had to fore-go those.

Finally the dentist.  Well my exam was free, however my dental plan only pays 80% of the cost of fillings, and only 50% of the cost of crowns, so again having to get a tooth I broke two years ago crowned cost me close to $400.   Then I had a cleaning, which is supposed to be covered but not fully.  The hygienist  found two pockets of decay, and recommended I have this antibiotic injected to help treat them.  Of course the dental insurance doesn’t cover this (surprise), so there I am for the cleaning and treatment another $180 out of pocket.    I get home and look up information about the product, Arestin, and find all over the Internet articles where dentist have recommended this unnecessarily just to get extra money, and supposedly the effect it has is possibly not worth the money.  Oh great!  I could have saved myself $150 of what I have left to help see me through until I can earn again.

Well one thing you have to do when you are unemployed is to tighten your belt and to budget hard to make the money last.  I have been doing this for a while now as it is, and this I think I will leave to another article.

So what is your opinion of the health care industry in the USA?  I know President Obama is trying to change things, but I would be interested to know your opinion on what should and could be done, and also I would be interested to hear about your experiences with the health care industry.

I GOT MY USA VISA!!!!

Well, it finally arrived!

Four whole months after my interview at the US Embassy in London, and the help of my M.P. (Member of Parliament), this arrived:

Please be advised that we are now in a position to issue your US Visa. Please resubmit your passport to us for visa issuance. Note that you have three months from the date indicated above in which to resubmit your passport.

Three months?  It was on it’s way the next day!!  Of Course, this email was quickly followed with:

We regret the delay in responding to your inquiry. We have been waiting for information on your case from the Non-Immigrant Visa Unit.

Why the wait?  Where have they been?

I have to say, I’ve been appalled at the way this has been handled. This all started to go wrong when Tony and I decided to ‘do things properly’ and get a Non-Immigrant USA Visa to allow my to visit to the USA for a year. How often do you get the opportunity to have a whole year off work to spend in another Country?

At my first interview, I was asked questions about Tony that I simply didn’t know the answer to… why would I know what his social security number is? The consular officer that interviewed me obviously had a hunch that she wasn’t comfortable with and so denied me the visa.

As the Chief Immigration Officer at Miami quite rightly summed it up ‘ I was denied a visa because some A**H*** was having a bad day’ Some bad day. Some bad day that took away my only chance to have a year out. Some bad day that caused me to be held for 15 hours at immigration. Some bad day that left Tony stood in arrivals all night long not knowing what was happening. Some bad day that cost us in changing flights and re-applying for interviews. Some bad day that my employer went to a lot of trouble for and then did it all over again so I could return to work early. Some bad day that meant I had to find somewhere new to live from 4500 miles away. Some bad day that worried my kids, my parents, my friends not to mention Tony and myself. Some bad day that meant I couldn’t even go through the United States in transit. Some bad day that meant Tony and I couldn’t spend time together last week when I had the week off work.

I hope she doesn’t have another bad day any time soon. I appreciate the authorities have to be very careful over who they approve for visa’s, but when you’ve done absolutely nothing wrong, have a government job for which your criminal record has to be checked reguarly, meet all the required criteria, have documentation to prove you intend to return and funds to support yourself, why does it come down to someone’s gut feeling? A gut feeling that left me almost having a nervous breakdown.

A gut feeling that will leave me feeling sick every time I travel to the United States in the future. A gut feeling that will almost give me a panic attack as I go through immigration and see those men in black waiting to check me out.

Surely the system isn’t right if it relies on gut feeling? Do these officials have any idea of the impact on people’s lives when they make these decisions? Her gut feeling was that I wanted to live in America. If that’s what I wanted, why bother going to all the trouble of getting a year off work?

Apologies for sounding angry, but somehow I feel I’m entitled to. Here’s something to make us all smile though – Funny Immigration Video I hope you enjoy it :)

Thirteen Days And Counting

It’s now thirteen days since I lost my job and I have been incredibly busy ever since, trying to organise my life and to promote my work more online.

Since my health insurance runs out in less than a week I have been trying to get the essentials sorted out while I can, since I can’t afford insurance without having a full time job.

Last week I went to the Dentist and Doctor, entered the time for today’s Dental appointment into my Google Calendar for 9:30am.  Went there, signed in, sat for 5 minutes reading a magazine, and they called me up to the counter.  “Anthony, your appointment isn’t until 1pm”.   Boy did I feel stupid, but I have so many different threads running through my head all the time, it’s hard to get it all right.

So having mis-timed that, I went to the hardware store to get a couple of things, then to the Farmers Market to do some shopping, as the fruit and vegetables there are usually better and cheaper than going to the grocery store.    While I was there Debbie called, and FINALLY she had got her visa approved for travel to the USA.  So now after 4 months of waiting she will be able ot travel here again.  Of course now I might not have the money for flights… Life just keeps throwing us those curveballs…  I won’t say any more, because I know Debbie will want to add things in her own words tomorrow.

Went back to the dentist at 1pm, had a tooth drilled down and impressions fitted for a crown.  I think he spent a good hour drilling and filing.  My jaw was starting to ache, and as always when I go to the dentist, I drool!  No idea why, but my mouth just fills with saliva when I have dental work done, and if they don’t watch out it just runs everywhere.   Well finally they got my impression for the final crown done, and also a temporary one made and fitted.  I can still taste it though, usually takes days for the taste to go away.

The afternoon was pretty much shot by the time I got home, so I chatted with Debbie on the webcam for a while, then after she went to bed I made a good stir fry with some green onions, boc choy, spices, ginger soy sauce, and egg fried brown rice.  Not my best effort, but pretty healthy at least.  I love to cook and have rarely had the chance in the past, but now with the weather being a bit cooler I am enjoying cooking lots of veggies.  I can’t justify the cost of meat, so that is a real treat for me, but I was always brought up to eat plenty of vegetables and these days I can easily make a meal of them, cooking them in plenty of different combinations and ways, often pretty spicy.

This evening I have been working solidly on blogs, updating my links on Stumbleupon, adding a new page for Tiger Direct Special Offers to my Poddys web site and adding it to the Sidebar here as well.  Tiger Direct have always had good prices in my opinion, and I have shopped there a lot in the past.

Initially I thought that there was nothing on television tonight, and after half heartedly watching an episode of Stargate SG-1 and then a Star Trek Next Generation episode, I looked at the guide and saw that on the Palladia channel (part of MTV) there was a 2007 concert with Heart performing Dreamboat Annie and more.  This was good, I saw them in 2007 on the tour, and they closed with Love Reign Over Me from The Who‘s album Quadrophenia, one of my all time favourites.   That was followed by Genesis in Rome from their 2008 tour which was an amazing concert.   I only saw them once, and they were my favourite band from the time I first heard Foxtrot back in 1972.  I saw them at Wembley Stadium in 1987 and they were incredible.  Even now it’s the best concert I have been to.

So I am caught up on Stumbleupon, most of my email, added all my lenses to a new directory today, but still have so much to do.

Oh yes, before I forget, I updated several of my lenses as well…

I added a new video to my Religious Jokes lens.  This is a stand up routine by Rowan Atkinson (Blackadder, Mr, Bean) welcoming new arrivals to Hell.  It’s very funny especially if you like Rowan Atkinson, don’t miss it.

I then added two new videos to my Zecharia Sitchin lens about the Annunaki.  If you haven’t heard of him or the Annunaki I think you might find his theories quite amazing.  They involve the deepest history, going back beyond the great flood and to the creation of mankind.  It’s quite an eye opener if you haven’t explored this topic before.  I added a video clip below to give a brief introduction to what his books are about, and he has written a number of excellent works on this subject.   Thought to be a crackpot thirty years ago, more and more is coming to light about our most ancient past, and pieces are gradually falling into place.

Well time for me to head to bed, as a Tom Petty concert takes place on television now.  Yes I like him, but I am tired and I have seen it before.

Hopefully in the morning I will have some good news about work or something  else.  You never know, we had good news today with Debbie’s visa being approved.  Now we just need to get me a windfall and/or a job or a chance to earn some good money.

For All My Unemployed Friends

My cry for help since I lost my job 11 days ago has gone out far and wide, and it’s so sad to hear of so many good people who have also lost their jobs.  Not only am I hearing from people that I have networked with over the last year who have lost their jobs, but they have spouses and other family members who have lost their jobs too.   It’s very sad, and these are very difficult times indeed.  I know that this is going to get worse for many before it gets better, but hopefully this post can help if only in a small way.

If you have lost your job, or know someone who has lost theirs, or maybe you know of someone who is looking for an expert in one field or another.  Maybe you know of a company or web site that is good for people searching for employment, or for retraining, earning money online (no scams) etc.

Please, if you need help, or can offer help, or just wish to tell your story to others, post a comment on this message.

Hopefully this simple effort might help connect someone in need with someone who can help.

If I can help even one person, then that’s a start.

So feel free to comment, tell us your story, or let others know how they might be able to seek help.

It doesn’t matter if you are in the  USA, UK or wherever.  Please feel free to post a comment.

Good Luck to everyone in keeping their jobs or finding a good source of income.

One Week Later

frustration out of workWell it’s one week today since I lost my job, and I have been really busy during this time, trying to get so many things sorted out, but not making even half the progress that I would have liked to.

I have a number of priorities for tasks, but so much needs to be attended to immediately and I would prefer it not to wait.

The obvious first task for me was to try to find work, so I updated my resume, posted that to several main job seeker sites that worked for me before, contacted the headhunter who got me my last two jobs, and since last weekend was a holiday weekend, I decided to wait for things to happen and to move on.

A company I worked for three years ago may need some work doing, and there are still people there that I know, so realistically this is my best hope in the short term.  I have an appointment to call the IT manager on Friday, so wish me luck.

My second priority is to get my health taken care of, since I only have insurance until the end of this month.

I desperately need eyeglasses, have done for a good five years, but never took the time to investigate.  Now when there isn’t enough light I struggle to see the computer (let alone what is on the screen – just kidding) so it’s impacting my attempts to work on my web sites and blogs.   I made an appointment yesterday, and the optician said that my eyes were good, the only problem being  my inability to see things clearly close up.  I rarely look good with glasses on, but the pair I chose seem to look ok, they just make me look a bit more serious.

Next is to get registered with a doctor, so I can have a full checkup.  I think it’s been ten years since my last one, and hopefully there is nothing wrong.  By the time you hit your fifties, things start to wear out, but I try to eat well, to exercise more than I have in years, and most of the time I feel pretty good.

The third thing I need to do is to register with a dentist.  I know I need at least two fillings, and I lost the inside of a tooth over two years ago (to a Tootsie Roll that I pinched from my daughter’s Halloween candy bag – serves me right!) so I really need to get a checkup, cleaning, and to sort out what I can.

Having got this out of the way, I need to work on creating a couple of new web sites, updating existing ones, writing more articles, promoting the lot, catching up on my email, comments from Squidoo, correspondence from Stumbleupon and other blogs etc etc.

Then of course it is Tax Season here in the USA and I need to get my tax return completed and sent in.

So while I may be unemployed, I have been really busy the past week.

In addition, rather than spend my whole day inside, getting a sore back and eyes, I have tried to go out twice a day if I can to the pool.  It’s a nice pool, rarely crowded, and if I can do 20 or more lengths at least once a day that’s good exercise, builds up my arms and helps to flatten my stomach (and it needs it too!).    I have also taken the occasional steam, and almost every night the guy I rent with and I walk around the lake here or the golf course, usually doing between 3-5 miles.  It’s nice and quiet, away from the bright lights, the stars are clear, and it helps clear the head, as well as being good exercise.

Well wish me luck please.  If you would like to keep informed as to how things are progressing, please feel free to subscribe to the blog.

Also if you could, any promotion of this blog would be appreciated, whether to Digg, Stumbleupon, or any other site.   Every bit counts…  I did register us with CommentLuv so if you comment on anything here, it will get seen on other blogs that are registered too.

Thanks so much to all of you who have sent good vibes and advice my way.  I really do appreciate it.  At times like this it’s good to know that you have friends.

Unemployed Again

unemployed out of work job hunting job search looking for workI thought that this job I have had for the last two years would see me safe, at least for a while, since the company is keen to hire people that are looking for a long term position, and it likes to hire experienced people rather than  trainees.

Well it wasn’t to be, and as from today I am on the scrap heap for the second time in six years.

A few months ago the company said that it was cutting costs to try and avoid redundancies.  A few weeks ago we heard that probably our bonuses and 401K matching would be cut.  A few days ago we heard rumours that some people would be losing their jobs.  A few hours ago I was called into the bosses office and it was my turn…

I have always worked in the IT industry as an Analyst/Programmer working on IBM Midrange computers (AS400 . iSeries), and for the last 10 years with J.D Edwards World Software (now part of the Oracle group).  Up to 3 years ago, JDE were trying to phase out the software I work with and trying to get companies to upgrade to the new version that they had created, however the new version has had lots of performance problems, and for most companies to convert it would cost over $1million, since they would have to rewrite all their locally developed programs.   Many companies did not want to change over, or tried and found so many problems that they reverted back, and so when Oracle took over JDE they found that not only did they have a large user base that didn’t want to move from JDE World software, but they also found that this was the most profitable area of their business.  In the last 3 years Oracle have rewritten the system to make it work better for the future, however most companies have been slow to upgrade to the new version so far, but they have at least said that this will be supported for the foreseeable future.

What I have in my favor is that in the last 10 years, with the threat of JDE withdrawing support for this system, many of the analyst/programmers who worked in AS400 computers have moved onto other platforms.  Now that the system is here to stay for the long term, there are fewer of us to fit into the available positions.

With the economy in the state that it is though, few companies are looking to take on new employees or contractors, and this is the most dire job market I have ever seen.  The last time I was made unemployed, I was working in Elkhart, Indiana, a small town which this month has been in the news as having lost the most jobs and having the highest rise in unemployment.  Even President Obama was in Elkhart this week.

I updated my resume on Monster.com and CareerBuilder.com today, and looked to see what jobs were open to me, and while there would usually be several in South Florida, there was absolutely nothing in the whole state of Florida, which is quite disturbing.  However, jobs aren’t always listed, so I hope the recruiter who got me my last two positions down here can come up with something.

I also updated my profile on LinkedIn.com which is the professional equivalent of Facebook etc.   I don’t know what good this will do, however in the last two or three years social networks have really taken off in a multitude of ways, so it’s worth trying.

Other than try to get another job in the same field that I have always worked in, I would love to change career, in fact I would love to be able to earn enough online to support myself, but I somehow can’t see that happening.  I can however if I have the time, give it my best show and see if my efforts will make a difference.  It would be great if I could somehow find a way to get paid for writing articles, or could get my web sites popular enough to earn a reasonable income.  Watch this space…

Biggest problem is that there isn’t just me to support.  If there was I could probably just about manage on unemployment benefit, however I have two daughters to support, and they go to private school, since the middle schools are awful.  I would really not like to have to put them back into public school, as this would affect their whole lives, however I need to find the money to cover the school fees somehow.  I am also paying into a fund which will help to pay their university fees, since by the time they start at university I will hopefully be ready to retire.  I really don’t want to have to drop this either.

So please wish me luck, and if you are able to share this post, or our blog with your friends, I would be grateful.

Keep your fingers crossed that something comes along and soon…


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The Soccer Game

I was just about to leave work tonight when my ex-wife calls to ask if I want to take my youngest daughter (4 1/2) to her soccer game, seeing as my eldest (8 1/2) had a fever and she wanted to look after her.   So I drove straight from work, somehow managing the 30 miles in traffic in a little over 30 minutes, picked my daughter up and went to the game.

Although it was 73 degrees, sitting on the sideline of a soccer field with a chilly wind blowing and only a thin sleeveless shirt on, I was getting quickly F-R-O-Z-E-N!   Fortunately I remembered that I had a rolled up throw blanket in the trunk of the car, untouched since I left Indiana three years ago (you don’t usually need them in Florida), and so I wrapped that around me to keep the wind off, but by the time I did I was already too cold to save properly, struggling to keep my hands and arms inside the small blanket by clutching it tight the whole time.

The soccer team was comprised of 4 and 5 year olds, but the other team looked more like 5 and 6 year olds, and definitely had more experience.  I don’t think that more than 3 of my daughter’s team had played before this season, and I think this was only their third game.

Well they started off ok, but the other team kept pushing them, and them broke loose down the field, kicking the ball towards the goal.  Our goalie, who was so small he hardly made a difference, came out and picked the ball up, then proceeded to run the twenty or so feet back to the goal with it in his hands and over the line.  That was the first goal!

Another soon followed, with the goalie standing motionless on the goal line, or maybe even behind it, not coming out towards the attacker, and dodging the ball as it went towards him.  Goal number two…

My daughter actually came out onto the field for the last 2 minutes of the first half, and of course by that time she had lost her concentration, besides which she still doesn’t really understand what she is supposed to do.   And then no sooner had she come onto the field, than it was half time.

So the teams switch ends, the other team kick off, head towards our goal, but one of our platers gets the ball, and proceeds to head towards OUR goal with it.  “WRONG WAY” everyone yelled, but the ball went off the sideline most of the way to our goal.  Some of our players were getting well stuck in and tackling, but two of them, although they were right next to the ball and in a perfect position to do something, just stood there, and the other team got the ball of course.  They kicked it towards the goal, the keeper caught it, then dropped it and over the line it went… Goal number three…

Well you get the picture by now, it was a comedy of errors the whole way through, would have made some good clips for America’s Funniest Home Videos if I had the camcorder there.

My daughter only played for the last 5 minutes of the second half too, and since she didn’t get a chance to touch the ball, I reckon she had to be the star player, since she did nothing wrong…  The final score was 0:5, and the game was just horrible, but at least she enjoyed herself.

The team finished off with hot-dogs that one of the Mom’s prepared there, and one of those was my dinner too, since I went there straight from work, and by the time I got back home it was too late to eat before bed time.

Well I drove the thirty miles back home, had trouble parking at the condos.  I have to use a guest parking place when there are people in the next condo to us, but otherwise I use their space.  Tonight seeing as how I didn’t get home until 9:30pm and all the snowbirds are down from New York and Canada, I had to park right around the front of the building, almost the only guest space left, under a tree, so no doubt I will be washing the car at the weekend to get the sticky resin off.

I live on the seventh floor, and although at the weekend I usually walk up the stairs, tonight I felt tired and just wanted to take the elevator.  Well two men have been modernizing the elevators since the end of July, and although one is fixed (supposedly) the second is still being worked on.  It surprises me how long it takes to do this, it’s now six months since they started!  Well anyhow, into the elevator I get, press 7, the doors close, and the elvator makes a bouncing motion as if it’s climbing, yet the floor light is still on 1.   I press the Open Door button, the doors open, and I am still there!  Close the doors, press 7 again, bounc bounce shake bounce, same thing.  Open the doors, and give up and take the stairs instead.

I just find it amazing that having worked on a single elevator for four months, it’s still not working.  Apparently it wasn’t this morning, and it wasn’t yesterday evening either.  Now since the average age of the people in the building must be at least 60, it’s pretty critical if there are no elevators working.  Several of them use wheel chairs or walking frames, so without an elevator they are trapped.   Seems that some technology zips way ahead every year, yet some of the older technology that you would think would be tried and tested just doesn’t work.

Well now it’s gone 11pm, my bed time, so I will end here before I zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

Shopping With Debbie

picture of a traditional English greengrocers shop selling fruit and vegetables.  The fruit and vegetables for sale usually extended onto the pavement outside the shop.

This is the story of a fun shopping trip I had with my eldest daughter on Saturday.   I will do my best to try and bring the character of the area and the sights to life and I hope you enjoy this trip as much as I did.

There is a suburb of Southampton called Portswood.  It has a right old mish mash of shops and a very diverse clientele.  Portswood is  bordered by a very wealthy residential area, student land, and a whole host of cultural communities.

Portswood has a great shopping centre which is spread along the High Street.  I suppose it runs for half a mile in length, and each side of the street has a range of banks, pharmacies, charity shops, greengrocers, clothing outlets, bakers, etc.  There is a Post Office on one side and a library on the other. There are also various fast food take aways and a couple of restaurants.  There is even a high end supermarket (for all the wealthy people) and a low end frozen food shop (for the not so wealthy people).  There is a beautiful bridal shop and a Blockbusters video store.   There used to be a Woolworths store but alas, the store is now an empty shell as the company have gone into administration.

The High Street (equivalent to Main Street in the USA) used to be the main place to shop in England when we were growing up, but these days most of the shopping is done in the newer malls or shopping centres that are on the outskirts of town, leaving the High Street full of more interesting shops and restaurants, many of them lower end but very diverse.

So why am I telling you this?

Pregnant womanWell, on Saturday morning, my eldest daughter and her bump which is now a definite, easily recognisable bump) called to ask if I’d like to go and hit the charity shops with her to see if we could find some maternity clothes.   We used to go shopping together regularly, but haven’t done this for ages, so I was quite excited about having a girly afternoon with my eldest baby.   My daughter had apparently just had a temper tantrum because nothing fitted, so she was in need of something to fit her expanding waistline.

So, I prepared myself with flat boots, plenty of carrier bags, money and a promise of  “don’t impulse buy”.   Off we went and actually managed to park quite easily, which is a rarity nowadays when shopping in England.

public-toiletAs soon as we got out of the car, Gemma (not her real name)  needed the loo (restroom), despite having gone just ten minutes earlier at my house.   As luck would have it, there was a public toilet at the entrance to the car park.   I waited outside as I knew what was lurking in there (I really dislike having to use public toilets).   I heard her close the cubical door which was then followed by cries of  “eeerrrr” ,  “oh no” and “why did I come in here?“   I patiently waited, giggling away, until she reappeared, muttering about “now she knows why she carried antibacterial hand wash in her bag” and “why don’t they clean these places?

So off we went to attack the High Street.

We followed our previously well trodden route which takes us down one side of the road, cross at the pedestrian crossing, and back up the other side.   That way, we miss nothing!

Dr. Barnados shop - click on the picture for the Aberdare Blog for more information

The first thing we noticed were that a couple of local businesses had closed down, one a national butcher chain.   However, we didn’t let this deter us and we soon found ourselves inside the Barnados Charity shop.  There it was, a cream lampshade, just calling to me! “Debbie, I want to be in your bedroom, buy me, buy me“.  It was £1.50  ($2.50) and it was brand new!  First purchase made… oh yes, I was supposed to be looking for maternity clothes… rummage, rummage, nope nothing let’s move on.

Scope is a London-based charity, which operates in England and Wales, focusing on people with cerebral palsy particularly, and disabled people in generalSo on we went… past the fish & chip shop, past a newsagents, past a Pound Shop (equivalent to a Dollar Store), past a bingo hall, past an Indian restaurant, and there was our second target the Scope shop which is a Charity for cerebral palsy and disabled people in general.   Rummage, rummage, “oh look at those gorgeous emerald green patent shoes, they look brand new” only to be met with “for goodness sake Mother, they may have been ok when you were ten years old, but not now!“   Oh ok… back to the hunt for maternity wear.   Then, I saw it waving at me from a hanger… a gorgeous white crinkle cotton blouse… well, I had to have it, didn’t I?  I only have about 5 white crinkle cotton tops so I really did need it.  Nice hats for weddings etc, no, don’t need those… onto the books… nope nothing there for me but Gemma  found one she wanted… nice handbags and “Oh what a gorgeous pair of boots” can I really get my size 7′s (US 9) into a size 5 though? No maternity clothes.

So onward our quest progressed…

We went past the frozen food shop for the not so wealthy people… past the pub, oh didn’t know there was a pub there, but it’s next to the betting office so probably not a nice pub… past the dry cleaners and across the road to the other side.

Now here’s where I first noticed that there were a lot of foreign accents, and I mean A LOT.   As we were looking at the beautiful Cinderella style wedding dresses in the bridal shop window, this poor unfortunate lady walked past us.   Over here, long, blouson style tops are in fashion and are worn over jeans, trousers or maybe leggings.  Well this lady who sounded Russian obviously didn’t know about the trouser part because she had her bright yellow blouson style top on – which only just covered her derriere I might add – over the top of a pair of grey lacy tights (pantyhose).  Well, I wanted to run after her and point out her mistake, but Gemma held me back.  At the bottom of the ladies rather large grey lacy covered legs, were a pair of interesting yellow ankle boots and on the top of her head was a grey beret, so it looked like grey head, yellow body, grey large lacy legs, yellow feet… oh dear!   But seeing people dressed, ummm, differently, is all part of the colour of Portswood.  You will see Asian ladies in Sari’s, students wearing typical student attire, old ladies in things they really shouldn’t be wearing and then normal people like me and Gemma.

Cancer Research ShopSo on we went, past the mobile phone shop… past an internet cafe, oh that’s new… past a bank… past a low end shoe shop… past a hardware shop… then into another charity shop, this one was the Cancer Research shop.   The lady behind the counter was a real character.   She was what I’d call a rough diamond.   She had badly bleached blonde hair with two inch dark grey roots which was badly in need of a good cut, lots of cleavage showing, a chain dangling a stone studded ‘R’ around her neck which her cleavage threatened to eat at any second and both hands full of rings… but she was lovely.

By this time, I was fed up with rummage for maternity wear and asked straight out if she had any.  She went and found a gorgeous top for Gemma and we matched it up with some trousers too.   As I was talking to the lovely lady, I spotted a beautiful pinky coloured cashmere cardigan which had been displayed on a wall.   I asked to look at it, which of course involved the use of a step ladder and the voluptuous cleavage threatened to escape as the lovely lady made her way back down the ladder with my best find of the day.  It still had the Marks & Spencers tags attached.  It was made with cashmere & angora… price £8.95!!!  Originally, it would have been £40-50.  M & S sells good quality clothing that lasts for years.  It’s not cheap though, but it’s also not the most expensive, but everyone here loves Marks & Sparks as we call it.

Then the bargains flowed, shop after shop we found some great stuff… maternity combat trousers, big baggy tops, a sparkly evening top for me and then… oh I just have to have you… my little darlings, you’ve just been waiting for me to find you… what caught my eye?  A pair of gold, satin covered, open backed, kitten heeled shoes with a little jewel on each side…   I know, they sound terrible but they are just perfect for a party I’m going to next weekend.   I’ll be wearing a black trouser suit with a lovely cream top and the shoes will be discreetly, yet still on show, tucked under the black hems.   Now of course, I might not be able to walk in them and I imagine dancing will probably be out of the question… maybe after a few lemonades I might attempt a dance, we’ll see.

Back to Portswood…

We found a Polish shop.   No, not a Polish shop that sells Polish.   A Polish shop for Polish food shopping.   We have the country’s largest Polish community here, and shops to cater for their needs are popping up everywhere.   So we went in to see what delights they had.  Well there was jar after jar of some lovely looking things, no idea what they were though.

When we eventually crossed the road at the top of the High Street, we were laden down with bags.   Our feet were aching and Gemma was needing another bathroom moment but decided to wait… wonder why? We went into an Asian food shop where Gemma found some Botong for her South African husband.   Botong is, I think, raw meat flavoured with goodness knows what and made to look like a sausage.  Gemma  tricked me once into tasting some and assured me it was cooked.   I won’t tell you how it tasted or how my stomach reacted, I’ll leave that to your imagination.   Anyway, Gemma  thought her husband wouldn’t notice how many bags she had if she took that home for him… smart girl ;)

Then it happened..

Fish ShopWe approached a fabulous shop selling all kinds of fresh fruit, vegtables and flowers.   Over here, it’s quite common for shops to display their goods outside the front of the shop so you can select what you want and then go inside to pay.   As we got closer to the door, Gemma started making some interesting sounds… almost like pleasurable gasps really.   Then it hit me… the smell of fresh fish.   Whilst my stomach was turning over and threatening to evacuate it’s contents, Gemma was in sniffing heaven.   Great big gulps of fishy smell went into that girl… it’s a craving she has, the smell of fish…  I waited outside turning a shade of green and trying to sniff the air coming the other way while she went and sniffed around and eventually came out with a bag of fresh fish and a gleaming happy face.

We then returned to the car, weary and tired but happy with our bargains. I made sure the fish was put in the boot (trunk) before we made our way home.

Can’t wait to go again…