How To Get What You Want In Your Life by Oscar Del Ben

Do you believe you can get anything you want in your life?

Do you believe that our mind can produce astonishing results if we really want to?

It may surprise you to know that the answer to these questions is YES!

We, as human beings, have the extraordinary ability to achieve phenomenal results in life if we really want to, and we see examples of this everyday.

Let me tell you a story…

There was a guy who grew up in a foreign county where he didn’t speak English.

He left school at age 16 to go to work to put some money aside.

After two years, he took the money he saved and went to America searching for opportunities.

He didn’t know a single word of English, but he was determined to learn it and he did.

He went from work to work while learning how to live in America and he met a lot of people.

He finally found an opportunity one day and he was able to start a small business with the limited knowledge he had.   Eventually the business went well and he sold it.   Now he is a happy guy enjoying life and living his life at the best every single day.

What was the secret of this success?

Experts say that when people are totally committed to something, they’ll almost certainly find a way to have it.   That was the secret of that guy and it is the secret of other millions of people in America.

So how do you actually get what you want in your life?

The first step is always to clarify what your goal is.

Do you want more money?

Why?

Do you want it to go on vacation with your partner, or to buy a new car?

Make a plan to get what you really want and do something every day to realize that goal.

Don’t be afraid of asking too much if you are really committed to it.

On the other side, don’t ask too many things when you can realistically accomplish only a few of them.

This is a powerful technique to achieve what you want in your life and many successful people are using it every day.   It doesn’t matter if what you want is double your income, visit a foreign country or have a new car.   Everything is possible if you can focus your energies on it and you do something every day to have it.

Oscar Del Ben is a professional writer, entrepreneur and programmer. He writes about personal development at www.freestylemind.com

Unemployed Again

unemployed out of work job hunting job search looking for workI thought that this job I have had for the last two years would see me safe, at least for a while, since the company is keen to hire people that are looking for a long term position, and it likes to hire experienced people rather than  trainees.

Well it wasn’t to be, and as from today I am on the scrap heap for the second time in six years.

A few months ago the company said that it was cutting costs to try and avoid redundancies.  A few weeks ago we heard that probably our bonuses and 401K matching would be cut.  A few days ago we heard rumours that some people would be losing their jobs.  A few hours ago I was called into the bosses office and it was my turn…

I have always worked in the IT industry as an Analyst/Programmer working on IBM Midrange computers (AS400 . iSeries), and for the last 10 years with J.D Edwards World Software (now part of the Oracle group).  Up to 3 years ago, JDE were trying to phase out the software I work with and trying to get companies to upgrade to the new version that they had created, however the new version has had lots of performance problems, and for most companies to convert it would cost over $1million, since they would have to rewrite all their locally developed programs.   Many companies did not want to change over, or tried and found so many problems that they reverted back, and so when Oracle took over JDE they found that not only did they have a large user base that didn’t want to move from JDE World software, but they also found that this was the most profitable area of their business.  In the last 3 years Oracle have rewritten the system to make it work better for the future, however most companies have been slow to upgrade to the new version so far, but they have at least said that this will be supported for the foreseeable future.

What I have in my favor is that in the last 10 years, with the threat of JDE withdrawing support for this system, many of the analyst/programmers who worked in AS400 computers have moved onto other platforms.  Now that the system is here to stay for the long term, there are fewer of us to fit into the available positions.

With the economy in the state that it is though, few companies are looking to take on new employees or contractors, and this is the most dire job market I have ever seen.  The last time I was made unemployed, I was working in Elkhart, Indiana, a small town which this month has been in the news as having lost the most jobs and having the highest rise in unemployment.  Even President Obama was in Elkhart this week.

I updated my resume on Monster.com and CareerBuilder.com today, and looked to see what jobs were open to me, and while there would usually be several in South Florida, there was absolutely nothing in the whole state of Florida, which is quite disturbing.  However, jobs aren’t always listed, so I hope the recruiter who got me my last two positions down here can come up with something.

I also updated my profile on LinkedIn.com which is the professional equivalent of Facebook etc.   I don’t know what good this will do, however in the last two or three years social networks have really taken off in a multitude of ways, so it’s worth trying.

Other than try to get another job in the same field that I have always worked in, I would love to change career, in fact I would love to be able to earn enough online to support myself, but I somehow can’t see that happening.  I can however if I have the time, give it my best show and see if my efforts will make a difference.  It would be great if I could somehow find a way to get paid for writing articles, or could get my web sites popular enough to earn a reasonable income.  Watch this space…

Biggest problem is that there isn’t just me to support.  If there was I could probably just about manage on unemployment benefit, however I have two daughters to support, and they go to private school, since the middle schools are awful.  I would really not like to have to put them back into public school, as this would affect their whole lives, however I need to find the money to cover the school fees somehow.  I am also paying into a fund which will help to pay their university fees, since by the time they start at university I will hopefully be ready to retire.  I really don’t want to have to drop this either.

So please wish me luck, and if you are able to share this post, or our blog with your friends, I would be grateful.

Keep your fingers crossed that something comes along and soon…


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